zwave dimmers and lightwaveRF wireless switches is my choice given the same dilemma. In my case all run off a MacMini (which I had "spare") running Indigo with a Aeotec (I think) zwave card and an rfxtrx 433 (to be upgraded to 433e if I ever convince the wife about Somfy blinds).
Still only at the testing stage (heating is the priority) but looking good so far.
As you say the lightwave stuff is the only attractive but moderately priced thing out there (and the mood controllers give great flexibility) and two way communication isn't really necessary for a switch.