There's no getting away from the fact that the HR92s are noisy. There's been quite a few discussion on that in here and the general tone of the replies is that they're better than the competition and that you just have to get used to it. The one on our bedroom functions perfectly well as an alarm clock in the heating season - we have never "got used to it". I've tried all the tricks like lubrication, tennis balls to dampen resonance, etc.
At some point I'm going to swap it with another one that might be quieter (or might just be in a room where it's less obtrusive, for some reason) but that means finding out how to rebind them (I'm sure the docs will tell me but, over the summer it hasn't been an problem and I haven't been motivated enough to get round to it). Another option that should resolve the issue is to use an external sensor and wrap the head in soundproofing of some sort.
However, my bedroom valve definitely doesn't do the hunting that you describe. It will come on and after 10 mins or so will whirr and maybe a again a few mins later, certainly not every couple of minutes.
Maybe one of the experienced folks her can suggest how to do a reboot of some sort - like with a phone or PC that's getting cranky..